Though I love showcasing fashion and style through many of the collaborations that I’m honored to be a part of, there are some partnerships that speak to me on a deeper level. Ones that are created to share a message that I’m not only proud to support, but that I can relate to on a personal note.
As you may remember, last summer I tried SK-II’s Facial Treatment Essence as a part of their #OneBottleAwayFrom journey. Ever since, I’ve had my eyes and ears fixated on their transformative skincare products, and more recently, on their #INeverExpire campaign – an ongoing global campaign that’s raising awareness of the pressures that women feel to achieve certain milestones on society’s timeline, instead of their own.
Not only do I adore this message and the fact that SK-II is making it a talking point in our community, it’s also something I’ve faced in my own life which is why it’s resonated with me so deeply. When SK-II asked me to share how I choose to live my life on my own terms and not concede to society’s timelines for women, I couldn’t resist the opportunity to share.
I’m sure many of you can relate, too. For decades, women have had pressure to accomplish certain things by a certain age. Regardless of if we choose to play into the “social norms” of getting married and having a baby on someone else’s timeline, we’re all aware that these ideas exist. These pressures come at us through friends, families, career choices ….the list goes on.
Though I met my love in my early twenties and didn’t necessarily deal with societal pressure of finding “the one” by a certain age, I’ve witnessed dear friends go through it. They’ve settled with guys only because they felt they reaching their “expiration date”. Being alone is hard enough – having mounting pressures from family about why you haven’t found the said “one” can be crushing.
So how do we deal? We change the social norms by changing our thoughts. We have to change the way we think and that starts with a conversation.
Personally, I’ve had my own inner dialogue telling me that it’s time to stop focusing so much on travel and my career and instead settle down and start a family. After all, family is something Freddie and I want very deeply for our future. I question myself about our decision not to try yet due to my age, and every year when another birthday comes around, I feel the pressure mounting.
With the simple act of opening up Facebook or Instagram, we’re bombarded with birth announcements, wedding moments and career achievements. It takes a lot of strength not to compare yourself and your life’s timeline to others’.
I see my friends and peers going through these milestones and my heart sings for their accolades. But I can’t help but wonder, am I going to expire soon? Am I missing my window? Should I do it now before I no longer can? Writing this even feels vulnerable, a dear diary moment. I don’t have all the answers, but what I do know is that I’ve always trusted the timing of my life, and right now just doesn’t feel right. I’ve honestly never fit the age I was supposed to be. So instead of giving into societies artificial timelines, I will live my life without limitations and trust where I am.
Can’t we all keep dreaming, keep achieving, keep doing what makes our souls fire up no matter our age? Instead of letting an age tie us down, let it raise us up. Let’s remember the freeness we felt as a child and bring that into our lives until the day we die. Let’s never let society define our timeline. Let us find our inner strength to overcome these pressures, as the women in the empowering #INeverExpire video do.
Who is with me, ladies?