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Accepting Your Body and Dressing For it

When it comes to confidence, I think one of the hardest obstacles to overcome is accepting your body. It is a struggle that I’ve heard women talk about for as long as I can remember. Somewhere along puberty (at least for me), you start being overly conscious of your body. This magnifies as we enter adulthood, and body image issues can fully consume us if we’re not careful.

I have personally dealt with this for years – though I do think I’ve developed a healthy appreciation for what I’ve got. From feeling self-conscious of being on the more petite side, and part of the itty-bitty committee, I’ve found ways to move past that and love my body instead – at least most days. After all, the human body is pretty amazing and it’s taken me years to truly appreciate what I have, not what I don’t have. 

Surprisingly,  a huge part of that is thanks to clothing. I think it’s what has always interested me about fashion. Finding what works for my body has been a journey that has amplified while blogging – being in front of a camera and seeing photos of yourself on the reg will do that. I’ve been able to see first-hand what works for me, what doesn’t, what I feel best in, and how to develop that body acceptance that is so necessary and a topic that I hear a lot of you ladies want to hear more of. 

So as I put some thought into how fashion has helped me accept my body more, I thought it would be helpful to share a few tips I’ve picked up when it comes to dressing for your body – and I go back to these reminders if I find myself feeling down my own:

Show off your best quality

Do you have a small waist? To highlight your figure, cinch it with a belt or ties. If you have killer stems, wear shorter hemlines. Have gorgeous, strong arms?  Tanks should be in constant rotation. Sometimes it’s easy to feel like we should be wearing something because it’s on trend but the most important thing to ask yourself is, “does this flatter me”. 

Curate your closet

Shop accordingly to what you feel good in. I personally love when someone has a signature style. Think Diane Keaton in her chic suits or Kendall Jenner in crop tops. There’s nothing wrong with wearing the same style of clothing over and over – just switch up the textures, prints, colors, to make your closet feel inspiringly streamlined. I mean, have you seen my collection if rompers?

Dress for comfort

If you’re uncomfortable, you will not feel your best, it’s just a fact. Don’t worry about what other people are wearing or even what’s the newest trend if those aren’t YOU. Find items that you’re comfortable in (as in feel your most confident in and physically comfy) and make that highest priority.

Use clothing to your advantage

It’s well known that monochrome outfits or black is slimming and elongating, so if height or curves are your stressor, keep that in mind. Bold prints are helpful for petite frames or areas that are smaller, so don’t shy away when you want to enhance a part of your body. And when in doubt, go with DVF’s secret: the wrap dress looks amazing on all figures!

I hope this brings love and acceptance to your body and helps when it comes to dressing yours. You’re beautiful! Never forget that.

Photos by Fred Cipoletti

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56 Comments

  • La Bijoux Bella | by mia  • 

    Fabulous post … not everyone can carry off designer styles, we just need to focus on what’s our best attributes and accent it in a classy way that can only enhanced the way we look more beautiful and chic than we know it! 🙂
    Love ❤️ your thoughts!

    LA BIJOUX BELLA | By Mia | A Creative Lifestyle Blog

  • Laura Mitbrodt  • 

    What a cute dress, I love the sunglasses too
    xo
    http://www.laurajaneatelier.com

  • Rebekka Gustafson  • 

    Love this post <3 Such an important message, and I adore your style.

    • Thanks so much love. I was really excited to share my thoughts on this topic, I think it’s so important.

      xo,
      Jenny

  • Cristina - Memories of the Pacific  • 

    Accepting my body…that’s something I struggle with every day. I don’t think I’ll ever accept it since I will always think there are ways in which I could improve it and therefore look better. For instance, working out more…

    I also believe my love for fashion comes, to some extent, from the fact that it can help your appearance. Who doesn’t look good in a pretty summer dress?

    http://www.memoriesofthepacific.com

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts so honestly here Christina. And yes, everyone looks gorgeous in summer dresses!

      xo,
      Jenny

  • Norina  • 

    Great post! Everyone can find clothing that makes them look stunning even though it might not be that one piece you like so much on another person. Everyone has her own body and should feel comfortable and confident in their clothes.

    Norina | la-piccola-me.blogspot.com

  • Great tips! As someone who just finished her sophomore year of college, it’s been hard to accept that I’m not as small as I was in high school, but you are so right: part of accepting your body is dressing for it! Also, GORGEOUS dress!

    xo, Carey
    https://thedaintydetails.wordpress.com

  • Fatou Diaw  • 

    Love this comforting look!
    xoxo
    https://www.closettostreet.com/

  • Ryan Sheldon  • 

    Love this one!

  • Stephanie Terrone  • 

    Thanks for the tips! I felt such pressure to buy an off the shoulder top for this summer and every one I tried on I didn’t feel comfortable in. So – I didn’t buy it. I think they look great on so many girls but for me, it didn’t work. Instead I picked things that I felt like myself in – and that’s when you always feel your best. 🙂

    http://www.stephanieterrone.com

  • Mary Colleen  • 

    So very true! I also think that it is important to be okay wearing something that isn’t “flattering” either (I call them “fashion oops”). There are certain styles in my closet that aren’t the most flattering style I could wear, but I have and wear them anyway. Fashion should be fun, and sometimes it is nice to be a little daring and try something completely different, even if it isn’t your best cut, color, etc. It isn’t an immediate confidence booster, but over time some of those items have helped me gain more confidence in myself than my flattering items. (Sometimes, I am the only one who finds it unflattering!)

    Thanks for sharing these tips! And that dress is gorgeous – you look lovely like always.

    Mary
    https://www.themarycurator.com/

  • Dhwani Parikh  • 

    Thats a heart felt post:) Agree with each and every word! Love your outfit btw♥️

    Xo,Dhwani

    http://www.quirksofme.com

  • Plume d'Auré  • 

    Loving yourself is the first secret for happiness and for loving others. Nobody’s perfect but we are how we are, and we should not only accept it but cherish it.
    You are beautiful babe!
    Plume d’Auré
    http://www.plumedaure.com

  • Delaney O'Brien  • 

    Love this post and love your outfit, so cute! xx

    http://www.laneyslooks.com

  • Ioanna  • 

    Such an amazing post! I took me years to fully accept my body but I’m loving it now! Your outfit is amazing.

    Kisses,

    Ioanna | http://thecolourfulbouquet.com/

  • Joana Marchana  • 

    This is exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been a bit in a bad place about my body and about how short I am. This was great.
    Thank you for making me feeling good about myself 🙂

    Love <3
    Joana
    http://www.worlddreamingblog.com

    • I’m so thrilled that I could provide a safe space and an outlet for you! Love you gorgeous girl!!

      xo,
      Jenny

  • I enjoyed reading this. Being skinny and petite, one would think its easy to dress up nicely.

    http://www.underaytedray.co.uk

    • Absolutely, you never know what happens behind closed doors. It’s all a part of the process!

      xo,
      Jenny

  • That’s a great post. True words. And the dress is really beautiful.
    Greets, Bianca
    http://ladyandmum.blogspot.de

  • Lourdes Martin  • 

    Such a great post, Jenny. I am in my 30’s now and I think getting older has helped me be more comfortable in my own body.

    We need more posts like this – that reminds us to be positive about our bodies. Loved it!

    xoxo

    Lourdes
    http://plsdotell.com

  • Great post 🙂

    New post in my blog: https://pergrablog.wordpress.com/2017/06/13/1793/

  • Emily Denise  • 

    Great tips for all bodies! It’s always a good idea to play to your advantages and starting to recognize your strong features is such a great way to begin to feel good about yourself.

    Loved hearing your thoughts on this topic!

    XO, Emily
    Epicurean Emily

  • Rachel Puccetti  • 

    Love this post! I am the middle of three daughters & we all have different body types. We encourage each other & help each other when it comes to confidence. It’s so importantat to do this because we all have times when we doubt ourselves. Thank you for sharing your thoughts & tips. We will certainly use them 🙂

  • Shloka  • 

    I really love that you’ve covered this topic. I’m on the super petite side as well and my height is not something that usually bothers me but as I’ve grown up it’s started to play on my self confidence. I think that you are so right – it’s just about loving what you have and understanding what works for you! Since I’m so petite I always notice changes in my weight so much more because it just shows on me more but I have also noticed thatr when I love my body and I love myself, what I’m wearing, even if it’s just jeans and a tee, looks amazing. Thanks so much for sharing your journey and your tips are so spot on!

    x
    Shloka
    https://thesilksneaker.com

  • Donna Bel  • 

    Our body image issues can consume us sometimes because a lot of people body shame other people a lot. They are usually unsatisfied with their own body or life and the love to body shame other people because that makes them feel better. Theses types of comments become so frequent for us that we begin to become unsatisfied with our own bodies. Some women will go so far that they will only buy clothes that makes them look thinner, larger etc; not because the like it or because they feel confortable in it but beacuse their body shape looks better in it. I think that the main issue is body shaming. But we should love ourselves no matter what other people say. Nobody know us better then ourselves so nobody should tell how we should look or how our bodies should look like. We all have something that makes us
    beautiful and unique and interesting. We should love ourselves for who we are and just the way we look. But clothing tips can also be useful. When we love what we are wearing and we ‘re confortable in it, we feel more confident. This is my opinion on this topic

    • Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts so honestly and openly, Donna. I love hearing your point of view and am so grateful to have you as a part of the Margo & Me community.

      xo,
      Jenny

  • Miss Harwell  • 

    You’re too cute! Love this post and that outfit!

    xx, Miss Harwell

    http://www.missharwell.com

  • Kelly Hoover  • 

    I love this post! so creative and so inspiring. I absolutely adore this dress too.YOU look STUNNING! As always. Share your secrets??

    Happy Tuesday!

    xo,

    Kelly Hoover
    http://www.theglamorousteacher.com

  • Alexis casso  • 

    I struggle with my body constantly 🙁 I don’t know if I’ll ever accept it for what it is! 🙁 i have always had a love and hate relationship with the way I look! Thank you for bringing this up! You’re so gorgeous!

  • The pink pineapple  • 

    Beautiful dress, i love this post
    The Pink Pineapple
    New post:http://thepinkpineappleblog.blogspot.com/

  • Bryn Bradsher  • 

    Great post, Jenny! It’s definitely something everyone struggles with. I agree that it’s all about dressing for your body type and highlighting what you love about your body.

    xo Bryn
    http://www.waketonroad.com

  • Rosa Fairfield  • 

    Dressing for comfort is such a big thing for me. Everyone seems to wear jeans these days but I just don’t feel comfortable in them.

    http://ohduckydarling.com

  • Lucy gypsy yancey  • 

    Well said. Your article has inspired me to look at myself with a positive attitude. I, for the most part focus on what I don’t like about my body.
    Thank you for such a wonderful and inspiring article.
    Gypsy

  • You look amazing, love!

    And great tips!

    Jill
    http://www.jilldap.com

  • Tori Chiarello  • 

    Great post today! Love seeing how fashion has helped you gain confidence with body issues. It’s always so surprising to me that every woman’s got something she doesn’t like about herself. I think you’ve got a great bod as I try not to focus on my flaws over here. lol. I’m a member of the too big committee! Things never hang right. As always, love your honesty.

  • Rey Rom  • 

    Perhaps using models of different body sizes and then demonstrating how to dress to flatter it would be helpful. Using petite models isn’t really demonstrating much when most clothing looks beautiful on them.

  • I can’t find these sunnies anywhere. You’re rocking them here. I love your style, grace and confidence. 🙂